Another year, another round of family etcetera around these holidays (see last year's version here). Here are some rough notes on such:
December 17-18, 2016: We did our fourth annual Montebello jaunt with father-in-law and Teri, and brother-in-law Michael and his family. Every year of such we've had another child in the mix, this year being our wee Aoife (I think the grandchildren are holding at four for a while).
The weather en route was minimal (compared to other years), but the storm immediately prior meant that many of the trails had yet to be cleared, reducing any attempt at outdoor activities (whew), although Christine did take Rose out for a bit of a walk on the Sunday morning, as I remained in our room so Aoife could nap (and I managed a few scratchings at poems-in-progress).
Given we'd four children in our group three and younger, I'd say we were rather contained, but wise, I'd say, to have us in the dining room earlier for meals, so we were less likely to bother the crowds (although we did find Montebello much less crowded this year; maybe the weather kept folk away?).
There was mayhem, certainly, but far less than you might think.
And Christine took Rose swimming not long before we left. Rose can now swim solo, if she's a lifejacket on. Terrifying. But the pool was nice and warm and completely empty.
December 24, 2016: We hosted my family again, as we've aimed to do every second year now (this was our second time hosting). Given how many of us there are now (my three children + my sister's three children + them + my father also) every photo in its own way was an action shot.
Kate managed to arrive immediately after she finished work, and just as we were sitting down to dinner. There is something about hosting that feels slightly sad to me, in that the event goes by far quicker than it used to. Back when I would head over to the farm for the same, I would stay at least a day or two, if not up to a week, making the reduction of my family's Christmas down to a few hours rather compact.
It was nice, also, to capture some pictures of all three of my daughters, together. Our two wee ones, of course, in matching pyjamas (apparently Christine has multiple alternate sizes, so they could even wear the same next year if they wished).
December 25, 2016: After the cat woke Rose, who then woke us (really!), we went through stockings and saw what Santa brought each of us. Rose got her bicycle and some jingly bells, Christine got socks, I got a can-opener, among other things (how did I get here?). The young ladies a shared dollhouse I slowly put together, like the 1950s dad I've become.
And, after stockings, we headed over to mother-in-law's house where we spent the day, along with brother-in-law and his family, and even his own mother-in-law. There were more stockings, as well as breakfast. Mimosas! Rose ran and ran and ran with her little cousin Duncan. She loves her cousin Duncan. We stayed the whole day (with a mid-afternoon break during which I delivered a load of presents home and managed to convince Rose to nap). Once we returned, there were toys and treats and crackers and paper hats (Aoife was less impressed with her paper hat).
December 26, 2016: We headed over to Christine's cousin's house in the east end, for Paul and Carla's annual extended McNair gathering. Another day during which Rose ran and ran and ran around with cousins. Food! Drinks! Cousins! I think Rose is in heaven during those days. She only approached me at all during the time we were there because she required a change. She wandered over and announced to me: I need a bum change! And such is my lot.
By the end of the event, leaning towards bedtime, we'd both girls in their pyjamas, as Rose played bongos and Aoife listened.
December 27, 2016: We didn't do anything Christmassy. We were exhausted. I took the young ladies out erranding, to allow Christine a rare solo breath. She did breathe. The ladies provided a valuable assist. Rose wore her new hat.
December 28, 2016: We hosted an extended McLennan/Page gathering far smaller than other years, given circumstance. It meant only my sister and her brood came by, which ended up even being a smaller gathering than what we had on the 24th. It all worked out, giving us a chance to actually hang out a bit more than we had a few days prior. And Rose ran around with her cousins again. She, as I've said before, loves that.
December 29, 2016: With Stephen Brockwell, I hosted our annual Peter F. Yacht Club Christmas party/reading/regatta at the Carleton Tavern, which I posted a report on here.
December 30, 2016: Nothing. We must be quiet now.
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Saturday, December 31, 2016
Friday, January 01, 2016
Happy New Year! w/ our Christmas/holiday things and stuff, and things,
I suspect we are, after a week or two of furious activity, attempting to remain very quiet today.Best to you and yours for 2016, and beyond.
We've been in a flurry of activity the past couple of weeks, between family and friends and further friends and other-family.
December 12-13, 2015: We did our third annual trip to Montebello [see last year's trip here] with father-in-law and his wife Teri, and brother-in-law Michael and his (very pregnant) wife Alexis and their toddler Duncan, which Rose enjoyed tremendously.
Now that the cousins are old enough to really interact, there was much running and running and running, with Rose directing Duncan (pulling and pushing) into various directions. Come on, Duncan. Come on! she'd chirp, and begin running.
She opened presents, had big buffet meals and we even explored the hotel a bit (so much running).
Rose was much happier in the pool this year as well (unlike last year). Last year it was a struggle to get her in, and this year, a struggle to get her out.
December 24, 2015: Now that we're alternating (after last year's hosting of my family at Christmas), we headed out to my sister's house by the old homestead for our usual Christmas-y business of presents, food, Christmas, etcetera. Given Kate is working two jobs, she wasn't able to make it out at all (which was disappointing; and felt strange to have a Christmas without her).
It also felt strange to have such high temperatures. I kept wandering outside, jacketless in sock feet, to see the full moon. Christine, nearly six months pregnant, pointed out that her mother was apparently also pregnant (with her) during the previous Christmas Day full moon (1977), a year that ALSO saw a new (the first!) Star Wars film appear. What might it all mean?
Given Rose is only two, she does enjoy opening gifts (not limited to her own), and handing out gifts to folk, she doesn't entirely understand about opening everything before enjoying what she's opened. And there's a part of me that doesn't necessarily want to discourage her simply opening something and playing with that for a while, before having to tear into the next thing. I was tempted to set aside the presents she hadn't opened yet, for the sake of her own attention to what she had already opened, for another week or two. No no, don't enjoy that, you need to open all the rest, etcetera.
Not that she necessarily got a ton of things, but a small mound, as toddlers do.
Of course, Rose loved seeing her cousins and running, running, running. Given our reluctance to wrestle the child into sleep in a strange space, it seemed easier, somehow, to drive the 30-40 minutes home when it was all over, and slip the wee girl into her own bed.
December 25, 2015: We woke in our own space, and Christine roused me for the sake of Rose + stockings + presents (why couldn't we sleep in? I mean, really). Some of her favourite items included her matching rain coat and umbrella (which match, also, her school backback), her new shovel, and a guitar. The guitar was for 3 year olds, but she ended up (through use) destroying her dollar-store guitar (which she played constantly), so wanted to get her something slightly upgraded. She's already been playing and singing with it daily.
And post-presents, we ended up at mother-in-law's house, where we saw Michael, Alexis, Duncan and new baby Adelaide for brunch, presents, nap and a big Christmas dinner.
Rose was so wound up from the day, we extended our fifteen minute drive home to nearly an hour (Dow's Lake, Old Ottawa South, Ottawa South, etcetera) to attempt to get her out in the car, which, of course, didn't work out at all. Fortunately, it was only another twenty minutes at home before we got her out completely, which still allowed us to watch our DVR'd Doctor Who Christmas Special before bed, instead of having to wait another day or two.
December 26, 2015: We headed east into Gloucester to visit Christine's McNair cousins, Carla, Paul and David, who were hosting a gathering of Ottawa-ish McNairs for the holidays. Christine's father is one of six, one of whom has six children, most of whom also have multiple children of their own, meaning there were mounds of children for Rose to run around with, even if most family members weren't able to make it. So many McNairs! I can barely keep track of which kids belong to which of Christine's cousins.
Of course, Rose had an enormous amount of fun running and running and running, and managing to fill herself up with a variety of foods (we attempted to limit her sugar intake, but she is very sneaky). And for some reason, I managed not to take a single photo (despite having camera in pocket the entire time).
December 27, 2015: On Sunday night, I'd decided to host a gathering of extended family: inviting my father, sister etc and daughter Kate, as well as an array of my mother's side of the family, which we really don't see often enough (and again, I didn't manage to take a single photo). I collected Kate a couple of hours early so she could hang out with us quietly, before all the madness began; once home, I rang the doorbell to announce to Rose and Christine we had returned, to which Rose apparently responded with glee, "My Katie! My Katie!" After opening sister-gifts of boots (Kate has quite a gift for picking out presents for her wee sister) and a puppy-puppet, Rose dragged big sister Kate around the house for an hour or so, until I finally checked in, to see if she needed to be saved (she did).
Eventually, my cousins Kim and Patti, along with Patti's husband, Joss, arrived, as did my sister and her brood, and Aunt Bette and cousin Lori-Ann, filling our house with food and drink and conversation. The children ran and ran around (Rose's favourite game with cousins). I like very much that I'm finally in a house where I can host such gatherings of friends and/or family, most of whom really don't gather nearly enough. We spoke of just how many of my mother's family smoked (far more than I knew), and a couple of other stories I hadn't yet heard, as well as the ongoing health issues of our Uncle Don, laid up in hospital since December 21st.
And why, again, and did I not take any photos (especially given that Rose apparently had a new/different dress/outfit for every one of these events)? Apparently Kate managed a selfie or two with her toddler sister (an impressive achievement, I'd think), but I don't (yet) have copies of any of those (and I'm not on instagram). Rose, also, managed to convince her cousin Duncan to pilfer multiple Turtles for her, from one of the higher shelves. Sigh.
December 28, 2015: An enormously busy day that opened with a dentist appointment, before heading over to our pal (and recent John Newlove Poetry Award-winner) Ron Seatter's house for brunch with him and his charming wife Barb. En route there we caught an email from a cousin, informing us that my Uncle Don had died the night prior (my obituary posts tomorrow). We had a lovely visit, and Rose played with their ten year old daughter for an hour or so (until she was starting to wear down from toddler-play), and saw the enormous amount of furniture and other items that Ron has built over the past couple of years (his devices are impressive).
And then, of course, our Peter F. Yacht Club Christmas party/reading/regatta, which I've already posted about, here. I even manged to get a couple of hours of solitary writing in at the tavern (with a couple of items, including a David Foster Wallace collection of essays gifted to me from my dear wife, Christine), before all the nonsense began, attempting (still, again) to complete that manuscript of short fiction I've been trying to complete (slowly) since before Rose was born...
The next afternoon was Star Wars, of course, thanks to childcare (well, once we dug the car out, obviously) from Carla, Paul and David. The film was MAGNIFICENT, and we only got stuck driving out in the Gloucester-wilds a couple of times. Go away, snow, you're drunk!
Can I go back to work again, now?
Wednesday, December 24, 2014
some (early) christmas : montebello,
With Christine's father and his wife Teri, Christine's brother Michael and his wife Alexis (and baby Duncan), we did our second annual Montebello over the weekend, for McNair Christmassy-type celebrations [see last year's post on such]. At least, this year, I didn't have to worry about having to recharge the battery on our old car (since passed along to a cousin, given a two-door is tricky to navigate baby into/out of carseat). Given that Rose is a year old now, she was much more user-friendly during this trip, waving excitedly at anyone and everyone who passed by, and we gave her more than a couple of opportunities to walk and run (supervised) through the huge Montebello space.
We drove out early on Saturday for the sake of outdoor winter-ings, but the warmer temperatures made the trails difficult, and we didn't think Rose would tolerate the rental sleds (we should have brought the sled she received for her birthday), so our walk outdoors was rather contained. It was even too warm for the sleigh rides! But we walked for a bit around the grounds, Rose enjoyed her time on the swings (she loves swings), and she saw a helicopter lift off from the other side of the massive hotel complex.
Christine attempted the swimming pool with Rose, but baby would have none of it, crying the whole time until I pulled her out to wrap up in towels (I didn't think anyone wanted to see screamy swimming photos, so haven't included them here). Once she was out of the pool, she was quite content to sit on the sidelines with me, pointing at all the other people flailing about in the eighty-plus degree water. Rose played with Teri, hugged her grandfather's leg, rifled through her aunt Alexis' presents, played with her uncle Michael, and very much enjoyed seeing her new-ish cousin Duncan (the second grandchild, after Rose, on the McNair side). At one point, she went to kiss his face, as Duncan attempted to latch onto her nose.
We had a lovely time, and Rose was extremely well-behaved during the entire trip, even when fidgety during parts of the meals (I simply walked a few minutes with her down some of the myriad hallways). She waved at everyone, and charmed just about everyone in the hotel (including the occasional person that seemed grumpy--how could anyone be grumpy while staying at Montebello?). Before dinner on the Saturday, Christine even managed to get Rose out for a brief nap on her back, in one of the wraps (there was so much activity that she wanted to pay attention to, all the time, so I'm impressed she managed it).
And: by the time you are reading this, I'm in the midst of putting turkey in the oven, to host various of our small McLennan clan at our house, hosting father, sister etc and daughter Kate for our first non-farm Christmas. I've been baking!
We drove out early on Saturday for the sake of outdoor winter-ings, but the warmer temperatures made the trails difficult, and we didn't think Rose would tolerate the rental sleds (we should have brought the sled she received for her birthday), so our walk outdoors was rather contained. It was even too warm for the sleigh rides! But we walked for a bit around the grounds, Rose enjoyed her time on the swings (she loves swings), and she saw a helicopter lift off from the other side of the massive hotel complex.
Christine attempted the swimming pool with Rose, but baby would have none of it, crying the whole time until I pulled her out to wrap up in towels (I didn't think anyone wanted to see screamy swimming photos, so haven't included them here). Once she was out of the pool, she was quite content to sit on the sidelines with me, pointing at all the other people flailing about in the eighty-plus degree water. Rose played with Teri, hugged her grandfather's leg, rifled through her aunt Alexis' presents, played with her uncle Michael, and very much enjoyed seeing her new-ish cousin Duncan (the second grandchild, after Rose, on the McNair side). At one point, she went to kiss his face, as Duncan attempted to latch onto her nose.
We had a lovely time, and Rose was extremely well-behaved during the entire trip, even when fidgety during parts of the meals (I simply walked a few minutes with her down some of the myriad hallways). She waved at everyone, and charmed just about everyone in the hotel (including the occasional person that seemed grumpy--how could anyone be grumpy while staying at Montebello?). Before dinner on the Saturday, Christine even managed to get Rose out for a brief nap on her back, in one of the wraps (there was so much activity that she wanted to pay attention to, all the time, so I'm impressed she managed it).
And: by the time you are reading this, I'm in the midst of putting turkey in the oven, to host various of our small McLennan clan at our house, hosting father, sister etc and daughter Kate for our first non-farm Christmas. I've been baking!
Saturday, February 22, 2014
Snowbirding in South Florida: Boca Raton,
Then our eyes clear and the emptiness within is
the same as the emptiness without, and the glass is transparent.
Rosmarie
Waldrop, Driven to abstraction
We woke one morning and the ocean was gone. Some
of us
were relieved. Who can blame it if it had been
our audience?
Sue
Goyette, Ocean
We’ve
already been here for days. Since Saturday, in Boca Raton, Florida at Christine’s
father’s condo, quietly hanging out with Emperor Rose.
The
weather only delayed our flight by two hours, most of which was sitting on the
tarmac at the Ottawa Airport. Ugh. But Rose was a good passenger, sleeping
soundly through most of it, cooing gently throughout most of the rest.
We
are outside slightly less than we were last year. Baby Rose can’t be out in
direct sunlight between 10am and 2pm, and she’s too young for sunscreen, so our
beach time is shortened, slightly later in the afternoon.
We
enjoy all the nothing we’re doing (between bouts of work—Christine, a book review
due, and myself, pieces for Open Book:
Ontario and judging a youth poetry contest). We enjoy all the not-snow.
We
go for walks, go for lunch with Christine’s father and his wife. We head to the
beach, watch the cruise ships skim the horizon. We engage in that uniquely foreign
state of rest.
The
baby exists outside for the first time in warm weather; for the first time
without layers upon layers. We utilize the stroller. We forego socks.
We
engage with Netflix, so much more powerful in America than the one we have at
home.
On
February 20th, she turned three months old. Madness.
Plans
exist to have dinner (again) with Mark Scroggins and his family on Monday; plans
exist to get down to the Keys to see Hemingway’s house (and the
great-great-great etc grandchildren of his infamous cats) and what else we can
discover.
I’ve
been working on fragments of a longer poem, “Standing on a beach in South Florida,
February,” sketching out a series of accumulations; extending a short sequence
of poems composed during our trip down here last year around this time [see my report on such here]. The first creative work I’ve managed since Rose was born
(focusing instead on reviews and other such works during my severely shortened
work day), this is what I’ve been focusing on since arrival.
I’ve
also been rereading Rosmarie Waldrop, who has become one of my favourites, her Driven to abstraction (New York NY: New
Directions, 2010) [pictured]. After hearing Phil Hall [in a review essay at seventeen seconds: a journal of poetry and poetics] and Rhonda Douglas repeat the positive qualities of such, I’ve
also been engaging with Sue Goyette’s Ocean
(Wolfville NS: Gaspereau Press, 2013).
We
sit at the edge of the same ocean, but with a far different perspective. A fragment of the work-in-progress reads:
Recreate, a place of comfort. Return. Aware of
all the possibilities. Distract, an ecosystem. An emptiness of sugar. Pop tarts.
This was once all swamp.
As far as the eye can see. But eyes can’t see
so far. We imagine: Portugal, the Ivory Coast. We imagine Key West. Next table
coos, proclaims: what a beautiful baby. Monsoon, a snow globe shape.
I am drainage. Strip-mine. Inlays, handicap. Tear
away the flesh. Do they know how to make beautiful.
I imagine the water. A measure of silence. Revolved,
oversimplified. A celebration, branded. The heart is an index of first lines. Christine
presses the palm of her foot into wet sand.
Expresses only the plural: water. Measures
sound, a figure. Cut into swaths, sand. Triangulate airspace, the cover of
night. The pith and the pitch of full moon. A beachy front.
Saturday, December 29, 2012
Toronto, and the (Christmas) week that was,
Tuesday,
December 25, 2012: We are still learning our combined Christmases, coordinating between
my father and sister and her enormous brood (who go around her husband’s
family’s schedule), my lovely daughter, and Christine’s parents. This year, a
shift in schedule allowed us to spend an evening with her father and his wife
in Ottawa on December 22nd, dinner at the Chateau Laurier. Of
course, all four of us managed to forget our cameras in other places (which, for
good or for ill, prevent any real evidence). But it meant we didn’t have to be
in Toronto for 2pm on Christmas Day this year. Relief. Given the 5-plus hour
drive from the farm, we barely made it (through a snowstorm, no less) last
year.
A drive to Toronto on Christmas day from the
farm (via Ottawa, where we returned my daughter home and retrieved Lemonade the
cat) isn’t optimal [see my post on such here], but I always remind myself of
the story Monty Reid told of when his boys were young, and driving the
eight-plus hours on Christmas Day from Drumheller to his mother’s house in
Saskatchewan, two young kids in the back. In comparison, ours seems quite
reasonable. And although the cat didn’t enjoy the drive, he didn’t necessarily
give us any problems, either. He curled up into a quiet, anxious ball.
Ottawa and the farm might have some good snow,
but so far, Toronto is rather green. Once we braved Christmas Day traffic along
the 401, we had a big dinner at her mother Karin’s house with her great-uncle Bob,
cousin Kim, her brother Michael and his lovely fiancé, Alexis [post-dinner photo above: Michael, Karin, Alexis + Christine].
Wednesday,
December 26, 2012: Boxing Day, as Toronto threatens snow, at some point.
We wake and move quite slowly, having been up rather late with dinner, drinks,
stockings, drinks, gifts and more drinks, all while the cat explored the house
and was skittish with the strange, new place and all the strangers within.
Today, also, I received confirmation on my
“Canadian writing” section of the 2013 edition of the annual journal New American Writing. For the sake of
space, they’ve cut my section in half, but it will include new work by Rob
Budde, Stephen Cain, Margaret Christakos, Trisia Eddy, Jon Paul Fiorentino,
Phil Hall, Marilyn Irwin, Nicole Markotić and Andy Weaver (it seems a strange and terrible thing
to send out rejections on Boxing Day). The issue should be out later in the
spring, and also includes a comparable selection of Mexican poetry edited by
Cristina Rivera Garza. In the works for over a year now, I’m very excited to
see the completed issue.
We had brunch with her mother, brother and
fiancé, and her cousin Jeff, his wife Jen and their two small children before
heading off to Burlington to see her friend Kim. Is it possible to enjoy time
in Burlington? I keep thinking not, but there you go.
Going through Burlington and Mississauga is to return
through Christine’s history, and she has, during various trips, shown me a
variety of sites from old schools, houses and workplaces, and the sites of
youthful adventures, both good and bad. Most of our comparisons go like this:
Christine: down here is where I met ____ to see movies.
Me: I was on the farm.
Christine: this is where I worked my first job.
Me: I was on the farm.
Christine: this is where I used to hang out with _____, at this other
mall.
Me: I was on the farm.
After spending a couple of hours in Burlington
with Kim [photo above of Christine and Kim; photo left of myself, Christine, Matt and other Christine] and hearing various stories of youthful hijinks, we drove through blowy
snow back to Mississauga, having dinner at a Pickle Barrel with her friend
Christine and her husband Matt. Given that the restaurant was five levels,
would that be more of a Pickle Silo than an actual Barrel? Mediocre at best, at
least the service was good enough. We wandered the mall where Christine
apparently had her first date, hundreds of years ago.
And why have we not yet watched this year’s
Doctor Who Christmas special?
We had tickets to
the Art Gallery of Ontario to see their Frieda & Diego: Passion, Politics and Paintings show, which is in the midst of
its final week. Christine knew much more of their work than I did, knowing only
a bit of Frieda Kahlo and nothing of Diego Rivera, two of Mexico’s most
well-known artists. During his lifetime, Rivera was enormously famous, yet
Kahlo was the first modern Mexican artist to show work in the Louvre.
It was interesting
to see the range of styles the two artists worked with, and the European
influences that worked through a number of paintings, from Botticelli’s
influence upon a particular Kahlo piece, to the Surrealists and Pablo Picasso,
among others. The show presented the two artists as equals, two artists working
side-by-side on their numerous projects, including a number they both did that
included references to the other (including a great deal of self-portraits). A
Christmas present from my lovely wife on our first married Christmas, was she
saying I needed to refer to her more in my work? Or me in hers?
The AGO didn’t allow
cameras in the exhibit itself, so we had to take photographs in other places,
including the small exhibit immediately outside, as a coda to the show, created
by a group of Toronto Island artists known as “Shadowland.”
With nearly an hour
between finishing the Frieda & Diego
show before our lunch reservations at the AGO restaurant, we found another
exhibit that excited, Michael Snow: Object of Vision. Michael Snow has always been one of my favourite Canadian
artists, existing in a number of realms concurrently. Paired with the
presentation of the 2011 Gershon Iskowitz Prize, the exhibit had a number of
large sculptural works, many of which require audience participation. What I’ve
seen of Snow’s work over the years (including a number of pieces at the
National Gallery of Canada), I notice that his work requires, if not outright
demands, a particular shift in the viewer’s perception.
One work, called
“Seated Sculpture” (1982), allows the viewer to sit inside.
My favourite was the
work “Blind,” that I played in for a while. As Snow writes in the “Artist
Statement” in the handout:
Several descriptive analogies relating to Blind come to mind: it’s like a
three-dimensional cross-hatched drawing, an object that monumentalizes fading
in and fading out, and in another film-related resemblance, it’s like a zoom.
The spectator experiences optically what is called “depth of field” in
reference to focusing with the camera lens at different planes. Viewing it
requires the spectator to focus; movie effects happen as the spectator moves.
I stood inside for a
while, taking pictures of Christine wandering through other parts of the
gallery.
Later on, Christine
(at my request) took a picture of me inside the work. Wouldn’t this make the
best author photo ever? For our collaborative project [see a fragment of such here], I’d love for a portrait of each of us inside the work, her on the front
and I on the back (perhaps). Do you think such a thing would be difficult to
achieve, permission-wise? I’d hope not.
From there, we had lunch in the restaurant, a set-lunch-menu with a Mexican-Spanish theme (to go along with the exhibit, obviously), and a Spanish wine as well. Magnificent!
Post-AGO, we hit a
bookstore and spent much money. I picked up some trades of Avengers, Fables, Krazy + Ignatz, and some issues of McSweeney’s and Granta. Had we been here a bit longer, we might have had time to
get a bit of writing done [as we did last year], but unfortunately, not. At
least Saturday, again, will be a work day.
And then back to her
mother’s, exhausted, to a quiet, quiet evening.
Friday, December 28, 2012: We looked at the
snow, and we wondered. And we still drove home, due to the Peter F Yacht Club Christmas party/reading/regatta the following
night.
Home, home, home.
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