Tamara Jong is a Tiohtià:ke (Montréal) born writer of Chinese and European ancestry. Her work has been published in the Humber Literary Review, Room Magazine, and The Fiddlehead, and has been both long and shortlisted for various creative nonfiction prizes. She is a graduate of The Writer's Studio at Simon Fraser University, and a former member of Room Magazine’s collective. She currently lives and works on Treaty 3 territory, the occupied and ancestral lands of the Haudenosaunee, Anishinabewaki, Attiwonderonk, and Mississaugas of the Credit First Nation (Guelph, ON). Worldly Girls is her first book
1 - How did your first book change your life? How does your most recent
work compare to your previous? How does it feel different?
In every way! I’ve had some readers reach out that I wouldn’t have met if not
for Worldly Girls and for that I am very grateful. It also means that
all those years taking courses, writing, re-writing, doing workshops, and submitting
and submitting work has all come to something tangible. I didn’t start off
wanting to necessarily write this memoir. I had wanted to write a book but it
was going to be a book of fiction. That seems so far away now. I haven’t been
doing a lot of free writing really, just a small piece about dépanneurs
(convenience stores) in Laval, where I grew up which is just in an early ember
stage. I feel like writing my memoir helped me see that I need to start in
embers, kernels in order to get my writing and thought process going but also
how finishing a project can be important as a writer.
2 - How did you come to non-fiction first, as opposed to, say, poetry or
fiction?
I did write some poetry growing up and in some English classes. I even got my
poetry into a type of anthology in high school (I still have it even though
it’s rather funny to read them now) but it’s hard for me to stake a claim as to
be a poet. I often wrote stories as a child and I had a teacher Ms. Sauriol who
let me read them aloud in class in fourth grade and they were silly things but
it meant a lot to me for teachers like her to make space for me. I had many
teachers who encouraged my writing even in high school where I did continue to
write when I could. However, I eventually got very religious with the Jehovah’s
Witnesses and put aside ambitions especially when it came to writing to the
side. It was later in my late thirties, when I was slowly leaving the Witnesses
that I came back into writing and for my birthday, I applied to the Humber School for Writers with a work of fiction that was really quite
autobiographical and got some encouragement and hung out with a community that
left me wanting more. I took a course at the University of Guelph that was an
introduction to creative writing with Zoe Whittall and worked on a short
piece of non-fiction that was called Leave-Taking and that ended up in the
memoir. It wasn’t until I took non-fiction courses with Ayelet Tsabari that made me fall deep
for non-fiction. This was after my friend Shelagh had highly recommended her.
After that I just kept going because of Ayelet’s encouragement and guidance and
the writers that came out of those classes and became part of my writer’s
community. I also went to The Writer’s Studio and worked with Claudia Cornwall
in the non-fiction co-hort and I got myself sorted out more to keep going with
the story after feedback and workshops.
3 - How long does it take to start any particular writing project? Does your
writing initially come quickly, or is it a slow process? Do first drafts appear
looking close to their final shape, or does your work come out of copious
notes?
I am definitely a slow and percolating kind of writer. It can take years,
years! Although, I don’t always know which ones will come to be an actual
story. I do try to follow the energy of the piece and see if it will let me
continue to write it. My first drafts normally do not resemble the final shape
of the piece. They get dissected and removed and shuffled quite a bit before
they’re ready to be a story. At times, the notes are inserted within the story
so I can leave it as a placeholder until I have time to do more research, if I
don’t go down that rabbit hole of research, that is.
4 - Where does a work of prose usually begin for you? Are you an author
of short pieces that end up combining into a larger project, or are you working
on a "book" from the very beginning?
I honestly never intentionally intended for my memoir to happen. I usually
begin with a memory and then see where it takes me. Before I may have started
with an idea or thought that appealed to me in fiction (so long ago and you
know children’s brains). I did think it was possible to write a book before I
knew about all the work a book would be. Then, I was unsure, really, as it can
be kind of daunting but I decided to continue. Encouragement, community and
advice from other writers did help me continue on, chapter by chapter, no
matter what that looked like.
5 - Are public readings part of or counter to your creative process? Are
you the sort of writer who enjoys doing readings?
I do enjoy readings! I feel it is important to hear the writer read in their
own voice and words that they wrote. That you can get the intention in which
they wrote the words. It’s like the inside thoughts are the outside now. I also
feel like it’s a way of connecting with each other.
6 - Do you have any theoretical concerns behind your writing? What kinds
of questions are you trying to answer with your work? What do you even think
the current questions are?
When I started, at times, I didn’t know what I was necessarily asking of myself
as a writer so I just started writing. Later it became apparent that I was a
searcher, a seeker, looking for answers. I believe it was Ayelet who said, as a
writer we have a need to know (I may be paraphrasing here). So, the questions I
am seeking or wondering about would be about belonging, my origins, who am I
and what am I without the Jehovah’s Witnesses, who is my community, how to
forgive, give grace to myself and others are among some of the questions or
thoughts I am thinking about.
7 – What do you see the current role of the writer being in larger
culture? Do they even have one? What do you think the role of the writer should
be?
Growing up in the Jehovah’s Witnesses, we had a very curated diet of
information that was given to us. We were quite honestly to be separate from
the world, so not to be influenced by the world or it’s affairs. Being no part
of the world meant not being involved in its politics or worries as we were
waiting on the coming of God’s Kingdom and that we were living in the last days
so anything happening on the world scale, pestilence, war; these were signs
that Armageddon was coming. I didn’t know to have much of an opinion about
anything as I didn’t think I knew anything about anything and who was I anyway?
My voice had been silenced for decades in many ways by silence in families like
mine who were experiencing difficult lives at home, with parents who were
dealing with mental health issues, alcoholism and a religion that maintains a
shroud of secrecy around it. I do think it’s important to have a voice and to
use it but I am still fearful in some ways. Worldly Girls is part of
that, using my voice to speak up. I still have parts of me that are fearful of
speaking up for myself or for anything. It is something I am working on to get
better at.
8 - Do you find the process of working with an outside editor difficult
or essential (or both)?
It may depend on the relationship I feel, the trust that happens between you. Once
I’ve written my piece, I do find that working with someone outside of my
process can be very helpful as they don’t know my writing or style or history
and can bring a new perspective to the work. Something I’ve missed because I am
filling in the gaps. I’ve always come away with something useful, that makes
the work better. I know that without my amazing editor Stacey May Fowles Worldly Girls
would not be what it became without her.
9 - What is the best piece of advice you've heard (not necessarily given
to you directly)?
The importance of first lines in a story, was great advice that I heard from Rachel Thompson who I took courses with
online. It really stuck with me and made a difference in my work when
submitting to literary magazines. It also helped with applying to anything
writerly. I found the advice helped me slow down and think about where the
reader was going to go.
10 - How easy has it been for you to move between genres (non-fiction to
creative non-fiction)? What do you see as the appeal?
It seemed to be very natural. There’s something about creative
non-fiction that freed me to write in a way that just plain non-fiction
couldn’t for me. It still has to be a story but it allows for if I may say,
whimsical to appear. That’s what I’ve always enjoyed about creative
non-fiction. It makes me think of Linda Trinh’s Seeking Spirit: A Vietnamese (Non) Buddhist Memoir and Emily Urquhart’s Ordinary Wonder Tales who do this so very well in their memoirs.
11 - What kind of writing routine do you tend to keep, or do you even
have one? How does a typical day (for you) begin?
I don’t have a typical routine but of course I can’t wait for inspiration. I
don’t write every day and at the moment, I am still doing writing related to Worldly
Girls. I have that one story I’d like to get back to that I mentioned
earlier on and I will. Normally, I’ll write in the evenings when I can, even if
it’s just a line and do some reading or research and see if that adds to what I
am thinking about. However, I do try to be open and be a work in progress when
it comes to what works.
12 - When your writing gets stalled, where do you turn or return for (for
lack of a better word) inspiration?
I find that reading helps me or watching a movie or program. If it’s stalled,
either I am feeling a resistance to what comes next or I need more information
to go ahead. I find that usually helps me step away and then come back to it. I
have had writing I have started that I scrapped. Sometimes, I will take some of
the old lines or thoughts and borrow them for a new story. I don’t think it’s
wasted really. I needed to get stalled in order to figure it out.
13 - What fragrance reminds you of home?
There’s something about the smell of summer. I used to say to my sister,”This
is going to be the best summer ever! And she’d say, “You always say that,” and
laugh. When I smell summer which may be the hot sun on the dry grass or the
morning after the dew forms on the grass, or the chlorine from a pool (a fave
childhood memory), that reminds me of home in Chomedey, Quebec where I grew up.
14 - David W. McFadden once said that books come from books, but are
there any other forms that influence your work, whether nature, music, science
or visual art?
Maybe some writers can write in silence but not me. I like to have music around
or put tv shows on, listen to podcasts or movies. I’ve done many re-writes and
edits with background noise on. I’ve also been influenced by reading graphic
novels and comics. I was into many of the superheros like Spider Man and
Superman growing up and more recently Teresa Wong’s All Our Ordinary Stories and Feeding Ghosts by Tessa Hulls. Also kid’s books have
been such a way to tell a story in such short and impactful ways. I think of Kyo
Maclear’s Spork and Leonarda Carranza’s Abuelita and Me.
15 - What other writers or writings are important for your work, or
simply your life outside of your work?
Wow, great questions. Oh, I have so many writers that have shaped my work and
are meaningful for me and the list grows and grows! There was Lucy Maud Montgomery, Jane Austen, The Brontës, earlier on. Then Alexander Chee, Mary Johnson, Mary Karr, Jan Wong, Ayelet Tsabari, Zoe Whittall, Claudia Cornwall, Teresa Wong, Kyo Maclear, Lina Lau, Emily McKibbon, Leonarda Carranza, Doretta Lau,
Nicole Breit, Logan Broeckaert, Jagtar Atwal, Laura Sky, Preeti Kaur Dhaliwal,
Hege Lepri, Obim Okongwu, Yilin Wang, Phoebe Wang, Leanne Dunic, Catherine Lewis, Susan Scott, Melissa Febos, Carrianne Leung, Jen Sookfong-Lee, Annahid Dashtgard, Hollay Ghadery, Stacey May Fowles, Emily Urquhart, Sarah Minor,
Wayson Choy, and Chelene Knight come to mind right off. This list is constantly
growing.
16 - What would you like to do that you haven't yet done?
I would love to go to Hong Kong. I’ve heard so many good things about the food
and culture there. Some of my family hails from there too, so would love to
visit places and learn more.
I would also love to learn Mandarin more fluently. I am currently trying to
learn with a very patient teacher and I am terrible but I so enjoy our time
together.
17 - If you could pick any other occupation to attempt, what would it be?
Or, alternately, what do you think you would have ended up doing had you not
been a writer?
In another life, I would have loved to play professional soccer. I also tried
hockey but hey I was terrible, haha. So, because of my religious devotion with
the Jehovah’s Witnesses and also the times I grew up, there wasn’t a time or
place for me to pursue sports back then. I came to soccer later in life like my
thirties after leaving the Witnesses and loved it so much. It was being part of
a team, winning and losing together and that my contributions did matter. I
learned a lot about myself and it gave me confidence. I also gained new
friendships I would have never had.
18 - What made you write, as opposed to doing something else?
I did feel like it chose me again and again and I kept coming back to it no
matter what.
19 - What was the last great book you read? What was the last great film?
The
Unravelling of Ou by Hollay Ghadery. It
knocked both my socks (hehe) off. I am hoping to get some more free time by
summer to read more great books.
I haven’t seen any really great films lately. I saw Wuthering Heights
but ‘nuff said. Nice costumes and scenery?
20 - What are you currently working on?
I am just enjoying having finished Worldly Girls right now. I had three
essays that were left out of this memoir so I will get back to these essays
which contain my search for my father’s story about his being a “paper son” from
China and see where that goes. I have to do way more research and find out as
much information as I can and hoping for more clarity. It also requires
ruminating so I won’t set a specific timeline on how to get it going. I will also get back to some children’s book
ideas I had been working on before getting Worldly Girls into the world.



